Stitching Yourself into Your Work

A few years ago, I was working with a client during a crisis. Public perception was getting out of hand fast and we were creating communications pieces to help clarify the story. An individual asked me how he could edit a graphic I had created. He didn’t understand why Microsoft Office wouldn’t allow him to do so. I explained he would need special software. He didn’t appreciate that answer. When he walked away, another person on the team came up to me and said they had a phrase for that in Britain. “We call that stitching yourself into the work.”

I wasn’t intentionally manipulating circumstances so I was the only person capable of editing the file. I was simply using the proper tools to create my best work. Still, I had done just what my accuser’s teammate had explained. I had ‘stitched myself into the work’. I understood the phrase had negative connotations, but what if this metaphor has positive qualities that could enhance our contributions and our satisfaction in contributing?

What I’m saying is similar to what Seth Godin endorses when he writes . . .

You have brilliance in you, your contribution is essential, and the art you create is precious. Only you can do it, and you must.

Seth Godin, Linchpin

The world seemingly demands us to create what the can understand and hold in their hand, manipulating it to whatever they wish or envision. But, can’t they make that themselves?

Truly, what the world craves is the rarity that resides within you. They want to be stunned by something they could not do on their own. We want others to inspire us with a sense of wonder that leaves us asking, “How did she do that?”

Our heroes are the men who do things which we recognize with regret and sometimes with a secret shame that we cannot do. We find not much in ourselves to admire, we are always privately wanting to be like somebody else. If everybody was satisfied with himself there would be no heroes.

- Mark Twain

Do something others admire. You don’t have to write the next American classic or cure a disease. It could be something small, like the way you treat customers or how you encourage your co-workers.

What I do you cannot do; but what you do, I cannot do. The needs are great, and none of us, including me, ever do great things. But we can all do small things, with great love, and together we can do something wonderful.

- Mother Teresa

Stitch yourself into your work. Bring your unique personality, experience, passion, interests and gifts into the marketplace. It is what we really desire from you, and we will admire you for it.

Someone Like You

Don’t worry, I’m not going to break into a song by Adele. This morning, as I read Seth Godin’s post on extending the narrative, I latched onto one of his comments.

The socialite walks into the ski shop and buys a $3000 ski jacket she’ll wear once. Why? Not because she’ll stay warmer in it more than a different jacket, but because that’s what someone like her does. It’s part of her story. In fact, it’s easier for her to buy the jacket than it is to change her story.

Once I recovered from the idea of paying $3000 for basically renting a jacket for a day, the idea of doing something “because that’s what someone like [you] does.” stuck with me. The phrase elucidates how we allow our lives to become parodies of ourselves. This is how we sleepwalk through vast segments of our life, only to awaken one day and not recognize the person we have become. A person living a life based on the expectations, desires and decisions of ‘someone like you.’

When you think of living according to what you know deep inside yourself, how does that make you feel? Does it excite you or simply raise your blood pressure with anxiety? Does it fill you with ideas or simply leave you feeling like you’re staring at an insultingly blank slate? Ask yourself why you feel this way. See if it connects with a deeper truth inside of you. It may be a truth you are unwilling to uncover from the shovels of dirt the world has piled on through the years.

If the idea scares you, perhaps it is because you have no clue what awaits under the lid of this box. I don’t blame you for being nervous, but be aware that you may be leaving yourself buried alive in that box as you let “someone like you” walk away, continuing to live your life for you.

5 Great Tips for Stalling Creativity

Many of us would love to apply more creativity to our work. Sometimes, we tend to be more creative in the variety of ways we stall; preventing ourselves from creating something spectacular.

  1. Redesigning the Packaging
    I don’t know how many different versions I have created of this blog. The design keeps changing, but if I were to focus more on the content I am sure I would be more successful and content. Companies will of tens spend countless hours and money on getting their logo just right; all while ignoring customers and the demands of the market.How are you waisting time on packaging that you should be spending on creating?
  2. Checking the Locks on the Doors (again)
    Being creative often means doing the lonely work. Meanwhile, our email chimes in, the TV news calls to us and the unlimited entertainment of the web sinks its addictive fangs into our arms.Are you able to shut out distractions when creativity needs your undivided attention?
  3. Making the Copies
    We are creatures of comparison. If you never saw what other people were driving, you’d probably be fine driving and old Chevy pickup (not that there’s anything wrong with that). For an initial boost of inspiration, there is nothing wrong with looking at what others have done. Just don’t try and copy someone else’s success, and don’t continue to go back to that well. See what your inner creativity can add to your project instead of recycling other people’s ideas.Have you really poured your soul into your work? Are you doing anything original?
  4. Star-Crossed Love
    If it weren’t for a bit of bad timing, Romeo and Juliet would have been a lot better off (putting it lightly). One of the curses of creativity is giving up too soon. Whether you want to play in a band or write a novel, you have to put in the necessary time to hone your craft. This is the 10,000 hours rule coined by Malcolm Gladwell in his book Outliers.
  5. Yes Man Syndrome
    Your time is precious. Ever tell something mundane to someone, just to hear them snidely remark, “I’ll never get that five minutes back.”? Maybe they were being a jerk, but there is some truth to what they said. We’ll never get any five minutes back, in fact. So, be judicious in what you say ‘yes’ to. Networking meetings and lectures can be helpful, but if you’re spending more time talking about and listening to others talk about the trade than actually creating anything. . . then you’re stalling.

You’re Obliged

You’re obliged to buy that car you saw during the commercial break for that TV show you’re obliged to watch while eating that burger and fries you’re obliged to buy and drip ketchup on the shirt you were obliged to get to look like that guy you’re obliged to watch play basketball in the arena named after the airline you’re obliged to fly to the city where everything stays and where you’re obliged to spend your vacation in the hotel your friend recommended as you two were drinking coffee from the place everyone obliges to buy their morning stimulants.

No. You’re not.

You’re obliged to create the things in this world that no one but you can create except the person with your experience, skills, passions, attitude and personality.

So, if you feel the pressure to be the consumer instead of the creator. Do me a favor.

Oblige me.

Creating is Serving

If you are a creator, sometimes the typical motivation of money, deadlines and productivity are not enough. There are days when it is hard to write the thousand words you set as your goal or make those ten phone calls to land a gig.

For the creator, an additional motivator should be the act of creating. This can feel selfish because we expect the artist wants to make her art. It’s true, she does WANT to create. Another truth is less apparent. She also wants people to be moved, inspired . . . perhaps transformed. A creator isn’t always trying to find fame, fortune and glory. Knowingly or not, he also wants to serve.

A point of clarification: we are all creators.

What happens when you stop posting?

What happens when you stop posting articles? Based on my experience, your blog begins to die slowly.

  1. You can let it die.
  2. You can fight like hell to revive it.
  3. You can half-heartedly allow it to languish in limbo. Your past creations propping it up like an iron lung. This is cruel, both to you and your audience.
My cruelty has been apparent. More to come.

How do you relate to memes?

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meme is defined as “an idea, behavior or style that spreads from person to person within a culture.” This could be anything from fauhawks, to LOL Cats to how you practice religion or whether or not you recycle.

We often unconsciously make decisions on how we relate to these memes. We can easily consume and be a conduit for these ideas, behaviors and styles without even realizing it. We can also be disinterested in or disconnected from memes with little thought.

What can truly define us are the memes we chose to create or chase and the ones with which we are determined to disagree. These are decisions we make with greater intention.

The issue with this is when we relate passively (positively or negatively) with memes of significance, while we relate intentionally to the less significant memes. I churn stomach acid over fictional TV characters and college football while real people are illiterate, hungry and/or dying of an easily-treated disease.

What would happen if we worked to relate intentionally with memes of significance?