Stitching Yourself into Your Work

A few years ago, I was working with a client during a crisis. Public perception was getting out of hand fast and we were creating communications pieces to help clarify the story. An individual asked me how he could edit a graphic I had created. He didn’t understand why Microsoft Office wouldn’t allow him to do so. I explained he would need special software. He didn’t appreciate that answer. When he walked away, another person on the team came up to me and said they had a phrase for that in Britain. “We call that stitching yourself into the work.”

I wasn’t intentionally manipulating circumstances so I was the only person capable of editing the file. I was simply using the proper tools to create my best work. Still, I had done just what my accuser’s teammate had explained. I had ‘stitched myself into the work’. I understood the phrase had negative connotations, but what if this metaphor has positive qualities that could enhance our contributions and our satisfaction in contributing?

What I’m saying is similar to what Seth Godin endorses when he writes . . .

You have brilliance in you, your contribution is essential, and the art you create is precious. Only you can do it, and you must.

Seth Godin, Linchpin

The world seemingly demands us to create what the can understand and hold in their hand, manipulating it to whatever they wish or envision. But, can’t they make that themselves?

Truly, what the world craves is the rarity that resides within you. They want to be stunned by something they could not do on their own. We want others to inspire us with a sense of wonder that leaves us asking, “How did she do that?”

Our heroes are the men who do things which we recognize with regret and sometimes with a secret shame that we cannot do. We find not much in ourselves to admire, we are always privately wanting to be like somebody else. If everybody was satisfied with himself there would be no heroes.

- Mark Twain

Do something others admire. You don’t have to write the next American classic or cure a disease. It could be something small, like the way you treat customers or how you encourage your co-workers.

What I do you cannot do; but what you do, I cannot do. The needs are great, and none of us, including me, ever do great things. But we can all do small things, with great love, and together we can do something wonderful.

- Mother Teresa

Stitch yourself into your work. Bring your unique personality, experience, passion, interests and gifts into the marketplace. It is what we really desire from you, and we will admire you for it.

You’re Obliged

You’re obliged to buy that car you saw during the commercial break for that TV show you’re obliged to watch while eating that burger and fries you’re obliged to buy and drip ketchup on the shirt you were obliged to get to look like that guy you’re obliged to watch play basketball in the arena named after the airline you’re obliged to fly to the city where everything stays and where you’re obliged to spend your vacation in the hotel your friend recommended as you two were drinking coffee from the place everyone obliges to buy their morning stimulants.

No. You’re not.

You’re obliged to create the things in this world that no one but you can create except the person with your experience, skills, passions, attitude and personality.

So, if you feel the pressure to be the consumer instead of the creator. Do me a favor.

Oblige me.

What happens when you stop posting?

What happens when you stop posting articles? Based on my experience, your blog begins to die slowly.

  1. You can let it die.
  2. You can fight like hell to revive it.
  3. You can half-heartedly allow it to languish in limbo. Your past creations propping it up like an iron lung. This is cruel, both to you and your audience.
My cruelty has been apparent. More to come.

9 Lives

Cats don’t have 9 lives. Most of them are perceptive and nimble creatures. Growing up, we actually had a cat that wasn’t perceptive or nimble. He fell on his back ALL THE TIME. Needless to say, he didn’t last long in rural Oklahoma. But this isn’t a cat blog, so I’ll get to the point.

Successful people don’t have 9 lives either. They’re not made of Teflon, nor are they truly golden. Most are nimble and resourceful. Yes, a few are just lucky. But, the bottom line is they were given one life to live.

Just like you.

What Einstein, Ghandi, Mother Theresa, Bill Gates, Steven Spielberg, Maya Angelou and others like them have accomplished… has been in one life.

We all want to be world-changers. By now, you probably realize your life won’t be measured on an international, or even national, scale. Still, your impact could be just as important.

What if we thought about 9 lives in a different way?

What if you could choose 9 lives? Just 9 lives you could impact. How would it change the way you viewed being a world-changer? If you could be a positive influence – through encouragement, inspiration, support, acceptance, justice… love – you could change the world for one person. Then another. Then another.

You’ve been given one life, choose to use it wisely.

5 Tips for More Tantalizing Writing

The great folks at FuelYourWriting.com have asked me to contribute a monthly article to their site.

If you’re a writer of any sort (blogger, author, screenwriter, copywriter, etc.), FuelYourWriting is just beginning to fill with great tips and resources for you.

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My first article was posted yesterday, 5 Tips for Tantalizing Writing.  Check it out and tell me what you think.  Did I leave anything out? ;)