A friend of mine once shared this with me. His father gave some words of wisdom to him, knowing – like most children – he was impressionable. These words are more relevant now than ever.

“When someone compliments you or criticizes you, treat it as a gift. You hold it in your hand and appreciate it for what it is. But do not hold it so close that it becomes a part of you.”

This is beautiful.

First, it helps us see the benefits of feedback, whether they are positive or negative. This is especially true of feedback from those we seek to serve. Without it, we lack the empathy to create something more valuable.

Second, it is a reminder that the feedback of others is not part of our identity. Our value is not derived from their praise or rejection. The same people who make you feel like a rockstar can make you a loser… if you let them.

Hold the gift. Observe it. Appreciate it.

But don’t let it define you.